Hello all! I hope you are doing well. I wanted to talk about something that I have been struggling with for a while now that I feel that some of you might be dealing with as well. And that is feeling anxious. Anyone can feel anxious. It is not just reserved for people diagnosed with anxiety. And it doesn’t present the same for every person. It isn’t always hyperventilating with a rapid heartbeat and sweating buckets upon buckets. It isn’t always loud and obvious. It can be quiet. Silent and unobservable.
Anxiety can be a result of many different things. Stress that is just building up, or as a result of worsening mental illness. Starting a new job, being introduced to a new environment. Fear of the unknown. All can cause that anxious feeling to rise up.
It’s normal to feel anxious. It is normal to feel some anxiety in any new or unknown situation. That uncertainty is normal. Okay? Repeat that a few times. It is normal.
My own experience tells me that it is the uncertainty of not knowing what will happen that rears that nasty feeling in the pit of my stomach. Or not even having the smallest amount of control over anything.
Managing that Anxious Feeling
Just a reminder and disclaimer, I am not a professional. These are just things that I have used or tried or have had someone else share with me that worked for them. And sharing that information over and over may seem redundant but until it is normalized and accepted I don’t think it is hurting anyone.
The first thing is to just recognize and acknowledge what you are feeling. How are you feeling? What (if anything) hurts? Check-in with yourself. Have you had enough to drink? Drink some cool water. When was the last time you ate anything? Have a snack or make yourself a meal. Did you get enough sleep the night before? Try going to bed earlier. Try turning off your phone or any electronics and just relax.
Know that whatever you are feeling is valid. You are allowed to feel that way.
Using any one grounding technique is very popular because they work. And there are a plethora of options to try out. And you can find lists of techniques everywhere. Literally anywhere. Google and Pinterest are my go to spots. Read through the lists they have and see if one stands out to you or sounds the most interesting.
Here are just a small number that either I use or find the most interesting:
- Meditate– There are so many apps, websites, youtube videos that have guided meditations for you to pick from. Try a couple out. Start out with short 5 minute ones. Work yourself up to longer ones.
- Go Outside and Sit– Sometimes it is enough to just sit and soak up the sun, smell the fresh air, and just be. Don’t worry about moving or trying to be productive. Just relax. Take in your surroundings.
- Go for a Walk– If you are feeling a little antsier, maybe a little agitated, take a walk. If you don’t like your neighborhood, take a drive to a local park and just walk the trails. Go slow. Don’t try to rush. Stop and take photos of every little thing that catches your eye.
- 5-4-3-2-1– This one is very very popular. And there are a number of variations of it but most are relatively the same. here is just one example: Name 5 things you can see, 4 things you can feel, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, 1 thing you can taste. I suggest checking out Pinterest, they have quite a few different variations.
- Journal– Just brain dump. Don’t worry about your spelling, grammar or even making sense. Just let it flow from you. Let it leave your mind and body. Then you can keep it, trash it, or burn it. But let it go.
Like I said, this is just a short list. There are so many things you can try out to see if one works best for you.
Seek Professional Help.
If you feel like nothing is working and that you might need some extra help. Seek out professional help. There are dozens of professionals out their that are here to help you. Therapy is a valuable resource that is often overlooked because of one reason or another. Try it out. Look up at options around you and check reviews. See what they specialize in.
I hope you were able to get something useful out of todays post.