I hope you all enjoyed the Chicago and BTS blog posts from the last few weeks. I had so much fun living those experiences and was happy I could share them with you.
But for this weeks post I wanted to talk about something important. Something I have come to notice. Or that I realized lately. And that is how hard it is for some people to do the things they enjoy. And actually enjoy it. I am one of those people. And I have some friends who I have had to watch experience the same things. They have these things they like to do. These things they enjoy. But they feel guilty that they are doing that over something else.
It’s Not Self-Sabotage… Completely
It isn’t necessarily that we don’t do the thing. But we feel guilt or shame. That we should be doing something else. For example, reading a book for fun instead of working on the course readings that are there. Or watching some YouTube videos for awhile instead of dedicating all my time to an assignment.
It is almost self sabotage. But I don’t think it is completely self sabotage. This post isn’t going to be about self sabotage. That will be a whole post all on its own.
This post. This post I wanna talk about doing the things that make us happy. And enjoying them. Not letting life get in the way but rather enjoying what it brings you. Start and finish that painting. Or that book you picked up. Do your hobby. Start a new one. Don’t let life stop you from living.
No Regrets Allowed
Don’t let it create regrets. Don’t let it hold you back. Start cooking all your meals. Start a little herb garden in your back yard or whatever you have. Learn another language. Do your family genealogy.
There is no reason for you to not do what makes you happy. (Unless it does more harm or hurts yourself. Don’t do that. Not allowed.) If eating that piece of cake is gonna make you happy but isn’t necessarily on your diet plan… Eat that goddamn piece of cake. DO NOT DENY YOURSELF. But don’t over indulge. Spoil yourself but remain steadfast in your convictions.
I have spent so much of my life living with the regrets of the choices I have made that now I don’t even know how to live without them. And while I know that I can’t change them. I know that I can’t let it hold me back. I can’t let it influence me in how I live my life now. Except in the sense that now, I use it as a lesson to myself. That now, instead of not doing the thing, I do the thing.
Doing What Makes You Happy
I want to learn a second language. I talk about it a lot. But it makes me happy studying another language. I love learning about languages and inevitably the culture and history of the other country. I get excited when I learn a new word or when I memorize a new sentence. It makes me happy.
I used to feel guilty that I would dedicate so much time to studying and learning but I found it difficult to do the same with my school work. And I used to feel self conscious about it. That people would laugh or think it was weird that I was learning a new language.
So, here is the big take away I want you to hear. Do what makes you happy. Even if you think it is silly or maybe even stupid. Do what makes you happy. Don’t let someone else make you stop from doing what makes you happy. Don’t let your mind stop you from doing what makes you happy. You only have one life. Don’t waste it.