Today’s post isn’t necessary like most of my other posts, as it is a bit of a heavier and a more personal topic for me.
For those of you who don’t know, I am currently in my final year of graduate school for my masters in library and information sciences. And I am working two jobs, seven days a week. I have a rather busy life. Most days it is OK. I can handle it just fine with little complication.
Or at least that is what people see on the outside. In reality I can’t breathe. I am so overwhelmed and stressed that I am suffocating. As soon as I solve one problem, I am faced with three more. It never feels like I can catch a break. I don’t really give myself a break either. I chose to take on a second job. I chose to try and keep this blog going. I chose to start this podcast with my friends. I chose to start selling my woven art online. It’s really my own damn fault.
But I don’t know how to give myself a break. I don’t know how to relax. I have this constant feeling that I am wasting away my life if I am not doing something. I am so afraid of all the regrets that I have already collected I am trying to push myself so I don’t make more. But I am.
The thing about burning out is that it is something you can notice before it actually occurs. The symptoms are rather easy to recognize. But you might just assume it has to do with something else.
You might be feeling:
- run down like you’re getting sick,
- tired all the time,
- easy irritation at the little things,
- lack of motivation,
- and so much more.
Something that I found interesting in this article from HelpGuide.org was how they distinguished the difference between stress and burnout and that stress was the presence of too much and an overwhelming pressure. But burnout was an absence, or a feeling of being empty and disengaging from the things you enjoy.
Similar to feeling empty, burnout for me presented this lack of interest in the things that used to bring me joy. There was a sense that of disinterest and guilt about doing something over something else.
There are ways to help alleviate burnout. There are ways to deal with it head on and not let it get to you so intensely.
The first and foremost is to fucking recognize that you are on the road to burning out. Acknowledge it. Don’t just shove it to the back of your mind and say to yourself that you’ll deal with it later. Cause we both know you won’t. Don’t lie to yourself. Or to me. I know. Cause I do that…
Undo The Damage
That is the easy part. Next you need to try and undo what you did. That’s a bit difficult. Because for most people, the burnout is coming from work. And most people can’t just take a vacation from work for an extended period time till you’re feeling better. That would be nice wouldn’t it?
What has helped me deal with my burnout has really been my friends. Without their support and just letting me bitch when I needed to, I think the bags under my eyes would have been permanent.
That and they have helped me relax more by taking me out of my stressed out space and experiencing living instead. I’ve started socializing more! My mother was shocked. (lolz).
And I started doing the things that brought me joy before again. Like weaving! (That is mostly thanks to my dear friend, Emilee.) And writing things for this blog! And doing the podcast with my friends! It’s been good for me lately. So I am just basking in positive vibes I am in and making it last for as long as possible.
(And this coming weekend is the Chicago trip and BTS concert so I’ll be on a high from that for at least a week… I AM GOING TO DIE.)
Other Ways to Help Burnout:
There are plenty of ways to help deal with burnout and help reduce stress. Here a few ways in a few different areas to help with your stress or burnout:
- Be creative!
- Indulge in your artsy side and let your imagination run wild.
- Get active
- Do things like yoga or meditation to help refocus yourself.
- And get physical to release those endorphins to get that natural high.
- If you can, take a break!!
- Take a short weekend trip somewhere and leave everything else behind.
I still struggle with feeling burnt out most days, but with the support system I have currently, I am dealing with it. It is a day by day process to getting to a place where it isn’t dragging me down as much as it was before. But I am getting there. 😊
What are some ways you deal with burnout? Let me know in the comments below!